Random Rant Blog

Where you going then?

Party

It may end up being more boring than your life

which is a thin possibility

This is an actual part of a conversation I had. I find it quite offensive. Yes, I'm always saying I'm bored. Yes, I often AM bored. But there's reasons for this.

Recently I have talked a friend down from suicide. I also had to get myself out of an anxiety attack today and my friend talked me through my panic attack yesterday. One of my friends has been having some issues lately with his self esteem and I've been there to talk to whenever he needs me. Also, this person was in the room when the youth worked at college (who also runs our student union) came in and asked to talk to me in private. If you're wondering why this is, it's because I think my friend may potentially attempt suicide again. I have 2 younger brothers that I have to babysit when my parents go to work and yet I still seem to do more work than you do. I certainly have better attendance. 

Where exactly is the time for me to have fun? There isn't that much of it when you throw in chores and homework and daily life routine. I had fun this morning by playing Just Dance on the wii and the experience calmed me down quite a bit. But that was all I had time for before my brothers came in demanding food. Like seriously, I want to have fun but sometimes life comes at us.

So fuck you. Rant over.

Sex: Outside a Relationship?

So the other day a friend told me that "50% of guys know what they want and don't mind being alone." Implying that guys want sex and don't care if they're in a relationship or not. I don't think this is quite true. The percentage seems wrong and so does the fact that he left girls out of this statement. So here are the rough categories of when people want sex in and out of relationships.

Just sex, no strings attached
No relationship, no commitment. The perks of sex without the downsides that there are to a relationship. No commitment, no having to remember birthdays or anniversaries or valentines day. Also, you don't have to buy gifts or pay for dates. Just condoms.

Relationship, great. No relationship, one night stand it is.
Basically what my friend was describing. The idea that sex is more important than a relationship but obviously a relationship has it's perks. The feeling of being in a relationship and love... Plus the fact that sex is more likely as you don't have to go out and look for a partner.

Sex inside a relationship
One night stands seem pointless and sex is more meaningful in a relationship. You know the person and are more comfortable with them, that's how it's meant to be, right? Not this promiscuous nature that is encouraged by the media and practiced by so many teenagers.

No sex please
Sex isn't for everyone. It might be religion, not feeling ready, conscience, morality or something that you maybe can't place your finger on... You're just not ready for sex yet.

Relationships? Sex? Ew.
Doesn't all this stuff require a little too much emotion? And let's be honest... everybody of the gender that you go for is a bit of a douche.


Short entry but... I felt like I needed to go through this.

Consent

Consent - OMFGItsJackAndDean

"Lets let this out to the right extent, this guy wants you but only with your consent!"

This song is so funny and yet has a serious point to it. Consent is really important in all cases of sexual activity. If one or both parties do not give consent, it is a crime. Make sure you have consent assholes!

Knowing people who have been sexually assaulted, I have seen the sort of effects it can have on people. Some people cope better than others but just because someone can go on living like it was nothing, doesn't mean it was okay. They still didn't want it to happen and I think maybe lack of reporting sexual assault and rape is a large part of why some people still seem to think it's okay.

Welcome to the 21st century. Stop being a prick, it's not okay anymore!

This social prerequisite that having lost your v-card makes you cool... It doesn't.

This social expectation for people to have sex with their partners... It doesn't matter.

The mindset that you should be able to have sex with your partner... Go fuck yourself, why should they want to?

There was a lot of controversy earlier this year about consent after a string of allegations against YouTubers. As a reaction to this, there were also a lot of videos made about consent by famous YouTubers who are of the same mindset: Consent is compulsory, not optional.

John Green, vlogger and author (including the author of "The Fault In Our Stars")

Lex Croucher, vlogger

Charlie McDonnell, vlogger

Charlie's blog: Consent

How To: First Date

This is a brief guide on how to (hopefully) have a successful first date.

The What/Where/When
Before you can get ready to go on a date you have to actually have a plan...

Saturday or Sunday during the daytime is a pretty good time to go on a first date. I'd say meeting up between 11am and 4pm is good. Agree to meet somewhere that is familiar to you both, even if your actual date is further away. You can always travel there together.

As for the what... I think there are some dos and don'ts.

DO:

• Keep it cheap
• Keep it simple
• Keep it social

DON'T:

• Spend loads of money on the date
• Pay for the other person
• Go to a cinema, it's a common date place but sitting in a dark room and not talking for 2 hours won't actually give you much sense of whether or not you find this person interesting and fun to date

My best suggestions are for where to have a first date:

• Coffee shop
• Park
• Ice cream place
• Any other place you can sit and have a non-alcoholic drink

Yeah that'd be my other top tip... No alcohol on the first date.

Getting Ready

Okay, you've got your date, you know where you're going. Now it's the big day and you have to get ready.

Step 1) Have a shower. This will make you all nice and clean and you'll just smell more attractive.

Step 2) Dry your hair. You don't want your clothes soaked and you don't want wet hair when you arrive.

Step 3) Get dressed. Sounds basic. But again there are dos and don'ts.

DO:

• Wear something casual, as if you were going shopping with friends. Jeans and a t-shirt will work well. If you go to college or wear your own clothes to school, wear something you would wear for a normal day there
• Wear something comfortable, you don't want to be uncomfortable as it will affect how you feel about your date

Examples for good outfits: 

Examples for bad outfits: 

Yeah...

Step 4) Girls, put your make up on. Again casual everyday make up. Don't go over the top. If you look like you always do then you won't look like you're trying to hard to impress. 

Step 5) Hair. This is where you can do something different. Making your hair look extra nice (but please still try for casual) shows some difference and some interest in the person but it's not too much. For guys, gel in your hair (but not too much because ouch and ew) might work just to make it look "cool" and for girls... There is so much! A small braid going from the front of your head to the back, a fishtail braid, casual curls or even just straightening it if you don't usually, it can make a huge difference.

Step 6) Go on your date. Don't turn up too early. I'd say if you're more than 5 minutes early, go somewhere out of sight. The toilets or a nearby shop is hopefully a good cover. Also, try not to be any more than 10 minutes late. You'll seem uninterested and it's kinda rude.

Good luck on your date!

Types of People in an Office

#01 - The Boss
This is the person who is in charge. You go to them with complaints, you go with suggestions for change and if they come looking for you, run. You always know who your boss is, it's in your job description.

#02 - The Hard Worker
This person does their job. And some of yours. The main issue with this person often comes in the form of expecting them to do your job for you, but don't be fooled. They may take your place at a meeting so you can go home to watch reality TV, but when it comes time for that report to be done, they might just make you do it yourself. After all, shouldn't we all be working that hard?

#03 - The Ghost
They're always in the office, but not at the same time as you... Whenever you see them outside the office, they're super friendly. Surely they're not avoiding you, right?

#04 - The Missing Person
Similar to the ghost, you never see them in office. They're always out at lunch, in a meeting or down the doctor's office. Or at least, it's what they text you saying they were doing...

#05 - The Lazy One
Very different to the hard worker. They just don't do much. Kind of like the missing person but you do see them in the office. How can they spend that much time there and yet do so little? I mean, honestly?

#06 - The Secretary
They might not be the secretary, but they usually are. They are always the easiest to find and super friendly. A real people person. Always smiling, usually laughing, never on their own.

#07 - The Control Freak
All the work has to be done their way. Exactly. If it's not done exactly to their liking... Well, let's hope you don't get offended too easily. And are willing to work overtime to finish it their way.

#08 - The Power Freak
They don't care about doing the work. They just want power. The more important they are, the better.

#09 - The Nerd
We know all about nerds. They are good with IT and tend to talk about the latest video game convention or last night's sci-fi episode. Maybe not the best person to get stuck next to at the photocopier but definitely helpful when "Have you tried turning it off and on again?" just doesn't work.

#10 - The Green Freak
"Don't print it, just email me." and "DON'T PUT IT IN THE BIN! Recycle it." are common phrases this person will say. They will probably never reuse their plastic bottles though!




Disclaimer: These people are not based upon people I know. Any resemblance is purely by chance. This is meant as a joke, please do not take it as any more than that.

Today was Different...

Blogging about my day because I feel it was slightly interesting.

So at college I am a part of my student union. I have a very hands on, involved approach. Therefore I know a lot about what's going on. When the president asked me to help with this report, I was happy to help. So it was going to be me, the president and the vice president having a meeting to discuss this report on what we'd done.

Neither of them turned up.

Now in fairness the president had messaged me and said she would be late in. It was all legit and fair and didn't bother me. The VP and I could do it and run it past her later so she was caught up. But I ended up doing by myself when in theory... I'm almost the last person who should be doing it. I don't go to this meeting and I'm not the secretary. This is not my job whatsoever.

Anyway, the president turned up and read through it. she was super thankful and apologetic for not helping.

Still nothing from the VP.

So it's about 3:30 and the VP turns up and is going to write this report. So I sit in the office with one of the other guys and the VP is typing up a report. I look over his shoulder and it doesn't look like it's going well. He starts asking me questions because I seem to have the answers. I tell him I don't know and don't really understand. So he struggles on for 40 minutes. It's now 10 minutes before the meeting. I lean over his shoulder...

"Would you kill me if I say I've already done it? 'Cause I have. Far more thoroughly than this."

It was mildly funny. According to the co-ordinator, he owes me a coke or a coffee or something for covering his butt. Hehehehe.


In addition to this, it was the art exhibition at college. I had some pictures on display that I was very proud of, my dad came along and my teacher said really nice things about me, asked what my flaw is. Always feels nice when people can't see a flaw in you.

There was also a little plagiarism from some other people but... oh well. Guess you ca';t help it they're lazy.

Anyway, overall a pretty good day. My friend going round the exhibition did make me laugh. A LOT!

My pictures, set to Sk8er Boi by Avril Lavigne.

#EndFathersDay and Feminism

I do not agree with the trending hashtag. 

I think it's ridiculous that it's not okay to be sexist to a woman but it is socially acceptable to be sexist to a man. It's also socially acceptable to be racist to a white person. 

Logic = gone!

There is a system that single mothers can use to track down runaway fathers in order to get them to pay money for their kids but single fathers are not allowed to use it to track down runaway mothers. Sexist

When battling for custody in court, a man cannot say that they love their child as it will be perceived as being creepy and they will not be given custody by being suspect of pedophillia. Women are completely fine to say they love their kids. Sexist

Single mothers get put to the top of the housing list for council houses. Single fathers might actually be told they aren't allowed on the waiting list even. Sexist

A large part of this is down to feminism and yet, a lot of feminists claim to want "equality" for both genders. Somehow this doesn't quite seem right to me. I know there is still a lot of sexism towards women too, I'm not so oblivious to have missed that. But everybody cares about that. Nobody cares about how poorly men are treated.

Anyway, I'm going to cut this there. I did write a blog post on my old blog about feminism but I had to private it due to some bullying incidents because GOD FORBID I HAVE DIFFERENT IDEAS TO THE FEMINISTS AT MY COLLEGE! *GASP*