Mental Illness and Psychosomatic Aggravation

Anxiety and depression are possibly the most common mental illnesses and I do believe you can make them worse for yourself.

Now, I was criticised for saying: If you have anxiety, that's fine. Just don't exaggerate how bad it is. You will legitimately make it worse.

I don't think this is an unfair comment. If you overplay anxiety and pretend it's affecting an aspect of your life which it isn't, it's probably going to start affecting that aspect of your life. Other examples of similar situations can be found in the TV shows House and Sherlock. Dr House gives a patient mints instead of tablets and they magically work aka the placebo effect. In Sherlock, the great detective proves Watson's limp is psychosomatic. Now let's define psychosomatic:

psychosomatic

ˌsʌɪkə(ʊ)səˈmatɪk/

adjective

1. 1.

   (of a physical illness or other condition) caused or aggravated by a mental factor such as internal conflict or stress.

   "her doctor was convinced that most of Edith's problems were psychosomatic"

   synonyms:

   (all) in the mind, psychological, irrational, stress-related, stress-induced, subjective, subconscious, unconscious "a diagnosis of psychosomatic illness should not be made lightly"

Now doesn't that sound like it might apply to mental illnesses too? "Or other condition." Because, whilst you might have a mental illness, it can be aggravated by a mental factor. In fact, one of the main issues thought to be prone to aggravation is in fact anxiety.

Let's come up with an example. I get anxious when it comes to relationships. If I stay clear of guys I like and guys who like me and anything to do with it... I'm not going to learn to deal with it. In fact, I'll probably start imagining it's worse than it realistically is. HOWEVER, if I keep working towards building up the courage to ask out a guy I like... Am I not working to overcome that one thing that makes me anxious?

Now I have been working on that and I'm not quite there yet. I've also been doing this with trampolines and I very rarely have panic attacks on them anymore. Now I'm not saying I'm going to start going to my college's trampolining club... But sure, I'll go on the one in my back garden with my brothers and not freak out. I can even do seat drops again now.

However, if you start making up situations in your mind (which lets be honest we all do sometimes) and you have anxiety... Isn't it possible you'll be having a panic or anxiety attack over nothing?

So maybe, just maybe, I have a point in saying that exaggerating a mental illness will make it worse. Now I know I've used anxiety as my main example here, but I'm sure you can apply it to depression. "School will be awful and I will get bullied." Will not help you. "Today will be better and I'm going to force a smile." Might. It's not certain. But to me, it's a risk worth taking.




I am not a health expert. 

Get it Right

I think people get me wrong when I say I'm not a feminist.

Saying I'm not a feminist, girls often confuse me for a misogynistic, homophobic, racist person (and I have actually been called this.) When in reality, I don't like some of the extremes feminism has caused and some of it's more hypocritical actions. These lead me to refuse to identify as a feminist. I'm just not one.

I do, contrary to popular belief, support equality for all... At least as far as is biologically possible. Obviously homosexual couples can't have children that belong to both of them. This is a biological inequality. Just as girls are naturally less strong than boys but more observant. Now, these gender differences don't always apply, but in most cases, this is how biology works.

So what exactly are my views?

Gay marriage is a must. In fact, lets just call it marriage, who cares who the fuck it is, lets all get stuck with one person for all eternity.

Girls in education. The kidnapping of girls just to stop them getting educated is wrong. FUCKING WRONG.

Also, who even gives a fuck anymore what your skin colour is. Black kids can be scholars and asians drop outs. Whats with the stereotypes. Yes, it's based on statistics. But from my perspective on the world, those statistics seem to be shifting.

So what encouraged me to write this after my massive break from blogging? (oops for that by the way.)

Racially motivated crimes. They're appaling.

How about Brendon Urie and all he's done for the Human Rights Campaign and gay pride yet it's got ruined somewhat by feminists saying that the directors cut was sexist because there were 2 women kissing but not 2 men. It's called girls/girls/boys and is based on man's experience of being in love with a bisexual woman. That is why.

Or how about those girls who were kidnapped from school because of a bunch of fucking pricks being afraid of women getting an education. Worse, the story seems to have dropped from the media because, apparently, we as humans in other countries don't care.

So maybe you should get it right what you say about me. 

Who To See Live: My Hitlist

All Time Low
Seen once, were amazing. Want to see again.

Panic! At The Disco
I sit on YouTube loads watching live performances. Brendon's voice is perfection.

Daughtry
My friend saw them live, apparently are good. Love their music, it's so chill. Also, Chris has a nice voice live in videos.

The Midnight Beast
Maybe not the best singers live... But they can PLAY. Also, atmosphere always looks really good.

Red Jumpsuit Apparatus
No idea what they're like live, just want to know what the atmosphere would be like.

Evan Taubenfeld
Acoustic. I would love to see this guy do an acoustic session. His songs are fucking brilliant.

Paramore
I have their live album. Is amazing. Want the real thing.

Patty Walters
This guy rocks.

Bring Me The Horizon
Started getting into them and would love to go to a gig because it would be fucking insane!

Ghost Town
I want a legitimate excuse to yell "DRINKS IN THE AM, FUCKS IN THE PM, TREATS ALL THE BOYS LIKE SHE DON'T NEED 'EM!" at the top of my lungs. Also, being surrounded by people doing the same... Who wouldn't want that?

Metro Station
The reformed band is so much better now. Thank fuck we got rid of Trace Cyrus.

Papa Roach
More lyrics I'd love to scream.

Rise Against
I somewhat idolise these guys but don't actually listen to them that much... Still, certainly want to see them live.

The Rubberbandits
Just for the bragging rights really.

The Vamps
So different to the rest of this list... But I would like to go to see them once. They're good live (from videos I've seen) and it's probably quite different from those previously mentioned.

Sometimes, You Have To Take The Hints

• If she refuses to hug you, she's probably not into you.
• If she refuses to wear a necklace you bought her, she's probably not into you.
• If she looks unimpressed when you buy her a necklace, she's probably not into you.
• If she ignores your texts, she's probably not into you.
• If she hangs up/rejects your calls, she's probably not into you.
• If she won't accept alcohol from you, she's probably aware you're trying to get her into bed and she's probably not into you.
• If she refuses to sit next to you, she's probably not into you.
• If she tells you who she's into, she's probably not into you.
• If she catches you staring at her breasts and slaps you, she's probably not into you.
• If she has to drag along another friend to avoid spending 10 minutes alone with you, she's probably not into you.
• If she removes you from all her social medias, she's probably not into you.
• If she tries to avoid you, she's probably not into you.
• If she doesn't buy into your bullshit sob story, she's probably not into you.
• If she says she's a lesbian, she's probably not into you.

And yet, despite doing all of the above (okay, maybe not the last one), this guy still did not take the hint that I'm not into him. On top of this, I later discovered he was talking about me behind my back to other guys. I honestly don't know why he couldn't just take the hint. This guy made me feel very uncomfortable, he was very touchy-feely and was hellbent on getting me drunk off his 70% alcohol vodka. Somehow, this guy was absolutely adamant that he would succeed in getting me to sleep with him. As if this was a one up for him like losing his virginity would raise him above all his friends.

I know, I sound very confident like "ugh, this guy was hitting on me and I wasn't into him. Like, take a hint." but he was making it blatantly obvious and EVERYONE noticed his actions and asked if we were together. Maybe it sounds harsh to say "Never in a million years." But this guy made me feel so uncomfortable.

Anyway, I shall leave with an appropriate nightcore.

Gay Rights

Gay Rights Support Cake story

It's amazing to think that this is going to court as discrimination. It's nice to see that gay rights support is really picking up. Things like this and the legalisation of gay marriage is great to see as it shows how we are growing as a society to become more accepting. However the argument that this prevents the right to religious freedom...

I'm an atheist. Or as my English teacher said, I'm a "lapsed Catholic" (he then told me I'm going to hell) so it doesn't really affect me. But lets look at the bigger picture. I have friends who are Christian, Muslim and other religions. Surely they deserve the right to their religion too?

What I don't see is why the two things need to collide. Didn't God say to love everyone equally? If so, surely that requires not discriminating against people for gender, sexual orientation, skin colour, ethnic background, class... anything! However, taking it in a different light... Doesn't loving everyone equally relate to being pansexual?

Anyway, just a short blog because writers block and ARGH! Might have a couple of blogs soon with a bit more... thought behind them. For now... Have some YouTube videos, a key staple of my blog.

#221Back

Filming to begin in 2015 for 4 new episodes. The question is:

Will they be to the same standard as series 1 and 2 or series 3?

Let's be honest here, series 3 may have been the funniest series as of yet but it was not as good as the first 2 series in it's deduction and well thought out plots. It's a crime drama, not a comedy. This has resulted in the loss of some fans because it's lost it's charm in it's plots. These are the more hard core fans and chances are, this won't be fixed. With the fangirl culture overriding nerd culture, Moffat and Gatiss are being told that it's brilliant and funny and even better than before. In reality, the people who are fans of the Sherlock books are leaving and will not watch series 4 because they feel it's gotten lost to a bunch of 12 year old girls and they're more focused on being Twitter trends than a good show.

Maybe I'm being harsh. But Mary Morstan is an assassin? Where was that in the books? I get it that with the empowerment of women we're trying to make female characters more exciting, more masculine. I like strong female characters but... this is just plain strange.

Also, we still haven't been told how Sherlock faked his death. Let's be honest, this was a MASSIVE let down for everyone. And surely most options rely on Moriarty ACTUALLY being dead. So now we're guessing how they both managed to survive.

Anyway, I love the show, just feeling a little disappointed.

Here's to a good 2016 for Sherlock!

The Worst Advice and Myths in Love, Sex and Relationships - Busted!

Just thought I'd bust a few myths and bad bits of advice so here goes:

You can get HIV from kissing
This is not true. You can only get HIV from unsafe sex. Also, please remember only barrier contraception will prevent the spread of STDs and condoms aren't 100% effective!

Popping your cherry is the same as losing your virginity
Lies! Popping your cherry refers to the breaking of the hymen and only applies to women. The hymen may break during activities other than sex including using tampons, periods in general, exercise, horse riding or might even just disintegrate gradually over time.

All guys want sex
Yes, whilst most guys want sex, some do not. This may be due to religion or high morality or even just a lack of sex drive.

The guy should supply the condom
The girl is also to blame for accidental pregnancy and STDs. Girls can bring condoms to the bedroom/party/wherever the fuck you decide to get it on. Also, the pill, implant, femidons, spray, caps, patch, coil and a few other methods.

Looks are everything
Good news to the people who hate mirrors, looks aren't everything. Pheromones are responsible for who we like. This is a smell that we don't actually know is there but we subconsciously like and know where it comes from. Okay, maybe that's not quite how it works but it's the best way I could think of describing it. Anyway, pheromones know not of looks. Sadly, they also do not know of the terms "jerk" "dickwad" "bad news" or any other things that might be personality related we wish to avoid.

Keep a condom in your wallet
Aaaand 9 months later you'll have a little baby. The wrapper actually gets damaged from this and so this is a bad idea. If you are going to keep a condom in your wallet, replace it every week and throw away the damaged condom.

Two condoms are better than one
Chances are if you're using two... you don't know how to put them on properly anyway. When used properly, condoms are highly effective. Most condom mishaps come from lack of knowledge... Welcome to the education system. Algebra is more important than safe sex.

Pulling out prevents pregnancy
Wrong! Precum is a factor and will be able to get you pregnant. It can also still spread STDs.

Sex education teaches us everything we need to know
So wrong! Schools don't teach us anywhere near enough about STDs, pregnancy, safe sex or other factors in sex ed including sexual orientation and puberty. You're best off doing loads of research yourself.