Flirtationships

Google, what's a flirtationship?

1. Flirtationship (n) – A social situation that comprises more than a friendship, but less than a relationship. Although Urban Dictionary defines it as “when you regularly flirt with a friend, but do no more,” that doesn't preclude a relationship in the future, necessarily.

Ever been in one? Many people will find themselves in one of these at some point.

I just thought I'd write one about my own experience,

There's a guy. *yawn* another high school story. But shhhh! He's really nice and rather attractive... Stop yawning, just listen! Anyway, we spent a lot of time over the summer holidays (and some time before) flirting back and forth. There were conversations at ungodly hours, joking around, hinting, sexual jokes that wouldn't normally be made between friends... I think you probably get the picture.

We finally met up towards the end of the summer but only with a large group of mutual friends. This guy turned up late and came to sit next to me. At lunch he attempted to get me to sit next to him only I'd already sat next to another friend and on our way to the bus stop, we mostly just chatted to each other.

Nothing significant actually happened.

So, I say as a joke in a group chat that they should come with me to this exhibition I had to go to. It was a throwaway comment and I didn't think anybody would take it seriously. So when I get a text from this guy when I'm on my way asking what time I'm getting there. I asked why he wanted to come and he replied "I have taken a sudden interest in photography." And wr spent the next 3 days joking about it. I had already been on my way and so when he got there I was long gone. But he had turned up and I wondered, if I stayed, would it have been a date? 

Anyway, after the holidays finished and it was back to college he appearingly ceased to give a damn about me as anything other than a peer. I found all this very strange and realised he probably got bored of me. I got over it, it wasn't ever serious. Nowhere near. 

But then he took an interest again. The moral of this story is not to let people fuck you around but also not to waste time. If I had just worked up the guts to ask him on an actual date, things might be VERY different. 

He and I still talk. I hope he doesn't find this blog post. 

Patty Walters: Top 10... So Far!

Teenagers - My Chemical Romance

Wrecking Ball - Miley Cyrus

This is Halloween - Nightmare Before Christmas

Can't Save Myself (As It Is)

Teenage Dirtbag - Wheatus

The A Team - Ed Sheeran

For Baltimore - All Time Low

Saturday - Rebecca Black

I just can't wait to be King - The Lion King

Song About A Girl (technically Luke Cutforth... but c'mon. We all know this was mostly Patty's doing!)

Rumours and Being Called Autistic

Recently at college there have rumours within a certain group of people I know. These rumours concerned me and my love life (which doesn't actually exist, hence why these are no more than rumours.)

Firstly, there were rumours that one of my friends liked me. I knew full well that this was not the case. We share a mutual feeling of "You're a bit of a prick but we're friends nonetheless so let's just keep you in the friendzone." This was a rumour I could cope with on it's own.

The second rumour I heard was along similar lines only with a different person who I was not (at least at the time) quite as close with. I heard this once and then later on that day, I heard it again. Only the second time it was more developed and made to sound like something that had spread more widely and the other person involved was aware of. This set me off in a panic as it made me think he had confirmed some sort of truth to this, to which there was none. However, when I confronted him on the matter, he had no idea what was going on and this was the first he had heard of it.

This first person I started hearing rumours from has started being even more annoying though. On Monday, I was in a room with him when I threw some sellotape at his water bottle. Not him, his water bottle. I hot the target but he still turned round and called me autistic because "autistic people throw things." Now, I have nothing against autistic people. I do, however, find it rather offensive both to myself and people who do suffer from autism that this be said. He then went on to tell me I have anger issues to which I thought "no shit, you just called me autistic." and then he told me I must have some form of mental illness.

I'm sorry, what!?

As if he hadn't already been offensive enough, he then told me I must have a mental illness. For all he knows, I do. I really found this offensive. As somebody who may or may not suffer anxiety/a panic disorder, depression, a sleeping disorder and has previously had an eating disorder... I found this seriously offensive.

Today, I told two mutual friends about what had happened. They told me that I shouldn't take it seriously as this guy had clearly been joking. This has only further pissed me off. I have talked to this guy and explained that I am annoyed and laid out my reasons as to why.

Lesson here: Don't call people autistic or tell them they have anger issues or a mental illness. These are serious things and it may well result in upsetting/annoying a person.

Rant over.

Pepper Spray

Seeing as it's been all over Twitter, I'm guessing you all know I'm not talking about ACTUAL pepper spray...

Yes! That guy. Sam Pepper, the infamous YouTube vlogger who has finally been called out on his sexual harassment of women. His newest 3 part video series was supposedly a social experiment to highlight the serious issue of abuse towards both men and women. However, the first video was titled a "prank" and the women who were sexually harassed, in the form of having their rear ends pinched/grabbed by the vlogger, all seemed a little too uncomfortable for what Sam said on Twitter to be:

Sam PepperVerified account‏@sampepper

and just to let anyone who is confused know, ALL PEOPLE in the video gave PRIOR CONSENT to ACTING in the experiment.

This clearly seems to have come off as a lie. What I personally don't understand is why he waited so long to say anything about it. The video "Fake Hand Ass Pinch Prank" was uploaded Saturday 20th September 2014 to Sam Pepper's YouTube channel though has been removed since. On Tuesday 23rd September 2014, Sam uploaded Part Two in which he had a female friend do exactly the same to guys. However, this all seemed a little rushed, especially with Part Three: The Reveal being uploaded later that same day. This is the only video in the trilogy to have remained on YouTube. The other videos were taken down for their sexual content.













Many other YouTubers have stood up and had their say on the subject.

Hank Green and TheFineBros 

Jack Howard from OMFGIt'sJackandDean

SprinkleOfGlitter

LukeIsNotSexy

However, I think the most shocking YouTuber reactions have to be from Dottie Martin (thisbedottie) and Laci Green (sex+)

Laci Green's Tumblr post: An Open Letter To Same Pepper

Laci has also posted about threatening emails she has received from Sam, warning her not to say anything.

Mental Illness and Psychosomatic Aggravation

Anxiety and depression are possibly the most common mental illnesses and I do believe you can make them worse for yourself.

Now, I was criticised for saying: If you have anxiety, that's fine. Just don't exaggerate how bad it is. You will legitimately make it worse.

I don't think this is an unfair comment. If you overplay anxiety and pretend it's affecting an aspect of your life which it isn't, it's probably going to start affecting that aspect of your life. Other examples of similar situations can be found in the TV shows House and Sherlock. Dr House gives a patient mints instead of tablets and they magically work aka the placebo effect. In Sherlock, the great detective proves Watson's limp is psychosomatic. Now let's define psychosomatic:

psychosomatic

ˌsʌɪkə(ʊ)səˈmatɪk/

adjective

1. 1.

   (of a physical illness or other condition) caused or aggravated by a mental factor such as internal conflict or stress.

   "her doctor was convinced that most of Edith's problems were psychosomatic"

   synonyms:

   (all) in the mind, psychological, irrational, stress-related, stress-induced, subjective, subconscious, unconscious "a diagnosis of psychosomatic illness should not be made lightly"

Now doesn't that sound like it might apply to mental illnesses too? "Or other condition." Because, whilst you might have a mental illness, it can be aggravated by a mental factor. In fact, one of the main issues thought to be prone to aggravation is in fact anxiety.

Let's come up with an example. I get anxious when it comes to relationships. If I stay clear of guys I like and guys who like me and anything to do with it... I'm not going to learn to deal with it. In fact, I'll probably start imagining it's worse than it realistically is. HOWEVER, if I keep working towards building up the courage to ask out a guy I like... Am I not working to overcome that one thing that makes me anxious?

Now I have been working on that and I'm not quite there yet. I've also been doing this with trampolines and I very rarely have panic attacks on them anymore. Now I'm not saying I'm going to start going to my college's trampolining club... But sure, I'll go on the one in my back garden with my brothers and not freak out. I can even do seat drops again now.

However, if you start making up situations in your mind (which lets be honest we all do sometimes) and you have anxiety... Isn't it possible you'll be having a panic or anxiety attack over nothing?

So maybe, just maybe, I have a point in saying that exaggerating a mental illness will make it worse. Now I know I've used anxiety as my main example here, but I'm sure you can apply it to depression. "School will be awful and I will get bullied." Will not help you. "Today will be better and I'm going to force a smile." Might. It's not certain. But to me, it's a risk worth taking.




I am not a health expert. 

Get it Right

I think people get me wrong when I say I'm not a feminist.

Saying I'm not a feminist, girls often confuse me for a misogynistic, homophobic, racist person (and I have actually been called this.) When in reality, I don't like some of the extremes feminism has caused and some of it's more hypocritical actions. These lead me to refuse to identify as a feminist. I'm just not one.

I do, contrary to popular belief, support equality for all... At least as far as is biologically possible. Obviously homosexual couples can't have children that belong to both of them. This is a biological inequality. Just as girls are naturally less strong than boys but more observant. Now, these gender differences don't always apply, but in most cases, this is how biology works.

So what exactly are my views?

Gay marriage is a must. In fact, lets just call it marriage, who cares who the fuck it is, lets all get stuck with one person for all eternity.

Girls in education. The kidnapping of girls just to stop them getting educated is wrong. FUCKING WRONG.

Also, who even gives a fuck anymore what your skin colour is. Black kids can be scholars and asians drop outs. Whats with the stereotypes. Yes, it's based on statistics. But from my perspective on the world, those statistics seem to be shifting.

So what encouraged me to write this after my massive break from blogging? (oops for that by the way.)

Racially motivated crimes. They're appaling.

How about Brendon Urie and all he's done for the Human Rights Campaign and gay pride yet it's got ruined somewhat by feminists saying that the directors cut was sexist because there were 2 women kissing but not 2 men. It's called girls/girls/boys and is based on man's experience of being in love with a bisexual woman. That is why.

Or how about those girls who were kidnapped from school because of a bunch of fucking pricks being afraid of women getting an education. Worse, the story seems to have dropped from the media because, apparently, we as humans in other countries don't care.

So maybe you should get it right what you say about me. 

Who To See Live: My Hitlist

All Time Low
Seen once, were amazing. Want to see again.

Panic! At The Disco
I sit on YouTube loads watching live performances. Brendon's voice is perfection.

Daughtry
My friend saw them live, apparently are good. Love their music, it's so chill. Also, Chris has a nice voice live in videos.

The Midnight Beast
Maybe not the best singers live... But they can PLAY. Also, atmosphere always looks really good.

Red Jumpsuit Apparatus
No idea what they're like live, just want to know what the atmosphere would be like.

Evan Taubenfeld
Acoustic. I would love to see this guy do an acoustic session. His songs are fucking brilliant.

Paramore
I have their live album. Is amazing. Want the real thing.

Patty Walters
This guy rocks.

Bring Me The Horizon
Started getting into them and would love to go to a gig because it would be fucking insane!

Ghost Town
I want a legitimate excuse to yell "DRINKS IN THE AM, FUCKS IN THE PM, TREATS ALL THE BOYS LIKE SHE DON'T NEED 'EM!" at the top of my lungs. Also, being surrounded by people doing the same... Who wouldn't want that?

Metro Station
The reformed band is so much better now. Thank fuck we got rid of Trace Cyrus.

Papa Roach
More lyrics I'd love to scream.

Rise Against
I somewhat idolise these guys but don't actually listen to them that much... Still, certainly want to see them live.

The Rubberbandits
Just for the bragging rights really.

The Vamps
So different to the rest of this list... But I would like to go to see them once. They're good live (from videos I've seen) and it's probably quite different from those previously mentioned.