Consent

Consent - OMFGItsJackAndDean

"Lets let this out to the right extent, this guy wants you but only with your consent!"

This song is so funny and yet has a serious point to it. Consent is really important in all cases of sexual activity. If one or both parties do not give consent, it is a crime. Make sure you have consent assholes!

Knowing people who have been sexually assaulted, I have seen the sort of effects it can have on people. Some people cope better than others but just because someone can go on living like it was nothing, doesn't mean it was okay. They still didn't want it to happen and I think maybe lack of reporting sexual assault and rape is a large part of why some people still seem to think it's okay.

Welcome to the 21st century. Stop being a prick, it's not okay anymore!

This social prerequisite that having lost your v-card makes you cool... It doesn't.

This social expectation for people to have sex with their partners... It doesn't matter.

The mindset that you should be able to have sex with your partner... Go fuck yourself, why should they want to?

There was a lot of controversy earlier this year about consent after a string of allegations against YouTubers. As a reaction to this, there were also a lot of videos made about consent by famous YouTubers who are of the same mindset: Consent is compulsory, not optional.

John Green, vlogger and author (including the author of "The Fault In Our Stars")

Lex Croucher, vlogger

Charlie McDonnell, vlogger

Charlie's blog: Consent

How To: First Date

This is a brief guide on how to (hopefully) have a successful first date.

The What/Where/When
Before you can get ready to go on a date you have to actually have a plan...

Saturday or Sunday during the daytime is a pretty good time to go on a first date. I'd say meeting up between 11am and 4pm is good. Agree to meet somewhere that is familiar to you both, even if your actual date is further away. You can always travel there together.

As for the what... I think there are some dos and don'ts.

DO:

• Keep it cheap
• Keep it simple
• Keep it social

DON'T:

• Spend loads of money on the date
• Pay for the other person
• Go to a cinema, it's a common date place but sitting in a dark room and not talking for 2 hours won't actually give you much sense of whether or not you find this person interesting and fun to date

My best suggestions are for where to have a first date:

• Coffee shop
• Park
• Ice cream place
• Any other place you can sit and have a non-alcoholic drink

Yeah that'd be my other top tip... No alcohol on the first date.

Getting Ready

Okay, you've got your date, you know where you're going. Now it's the big day and you have to get ready.

Step 1) Have a shower. This will make you all nice and clean and you'll just smell more attractive.

Step 2) Dry your hair. You don't want your clothes soaked and you don't want wet hair when you arrive.

Step 3) Get dressed. Sounds basic. But again there are dos and don'ts.

DO:

• Wear something casual, as if you were going shopping with friends. Jeans and a t-shirt will work well. If you go to college or wear your own clothes to school, wear something you would wear for a normal day there
• Wear something comfortable, you don't want to be uncomfortable as it will affect how you feel about your date

Examples for good outfits: 

Examples for bad outfits: 

Yeah...

Step 4) Girls, put your make up on. Again casual everyday make up. Don't go over the top. If you look like you always do then you won't look like you're trying to hard to impress. 

Step 5) Hair. This is where you can do something different. Making your hair look extra nice (but please still try for casual) shows some difference and some interest in the person but it's not too much. For guys, gel in your hair (but not too much because ouch and ew) might work just to make it look "cool" and for girls... There is so much! A small braid going from the front of your head to the back, a fishtail braid, casual curls or even just straightening it if you don't usually, it can make a huge difference.

Step 6) Go on your date. Don't turn up too early. I'd say if you're more than 5 minutes early, go somewhere out of sight. The toilets or a nearby shop is hopefully a good cover. Also, try not to be any more than 10 minutes late. You'll seem uninterested and it's kinda rude.

Good luck on your date!

Types of People in an Office

#01 - The Boss
This is the person who is in charge. You go to them with complaints, you go with suggestions for change and if they come looking for you, run. You always know who your boss is, it's in your job description.

#02 - The Hard Worker
This person does their job. And some of yours. The main issue with this person often comes in the form of expecting them to do your job for you, but don't be fooled. They may take your place at a meeting so you can go home to watch reality TV, but when it comes time for that report to be done, they might just make you do it yourself. After all, shouldn't we all be working that hard?

#03 - The Ghost
They're always in the office, but not at the same time as you... Whenever you see them outside the office, they're super friendly. Surely they're not avoiding you, right?

#04 - The Missing Person
Similar to the ghost, you never see them in office. They're always out at lunch, in a meeting or down the doctor's office. Or at least, it's what they text you saying they were doing...

#05 - The Lazy One
Very different to the hard worker. They just don't do much. Kind of like the missing person but you do see them in the office. How can they spend that much time there and yet do so little? I mean, honestly?

#06 - The Secretary
They might not be the secretary, but they usually are. They are always the easiest to find and super friendly. A real people person. Always smiling, usually laughing, never on their own.

#07 - The Control Freak
All the work has to be done their way. Exactly. If it's not done exactly to their liking... Well, let's hope you don't get offended too easily. And are willing to work overtime to finish it their way.

#08 - The Power Freak
They don't care about doing the work. They just want power. The more important they are, the better.

#09 - The Nerd
We know all about nerds. They are good with IT and tend to talk about the latest video game convention or last night's sci-fi episode. Maybe not the best person to get stuck next to at the photocopier but definitely helpful when "Have you tried turning it off and on again?" just doesn't work.

#10 - The Green Freak
"Don't print it, just email me." and "DON'T PUT IT IN THE BIN! Recycle it." are common phrases this person will say. They will probably never reuse their plastic bottles though!




Disclaimer: These people are not based upon people I know. Any resemblance is purely by chance. This is meant as a joke, please do not take it as any more than that.

Today was Different...

Blogging about my day because I feel it was slightly interesting.

So at college I am a part of my student union. I have a very hands on, involved approach. Therefore I know a lot about what's going on. When the president asked me to help with this report, I was happy to help. So it was going to be me, the president and the vice president having a meeting to discuss this report on what we'd done.

Neither of them turned up.

Now in fairness the president had messaged me and said she would be late in. It was all legit and fair and didn't bother me. The VP and I could do it and run it past her later so she was caught up. But I ended up doing by myself when in theory... I'm almost the last person who should be doing it. I don't go to this meeting and I'm not the secretary. This is not my job whatsoever.

Anyway, the president turned up and read through it. she was super thankful and apologetic for not helping.

Still nothing from the VP.

So it's about 3:30 and the VP turns up and is going to write this report. So I sit in the office with one of the other guys and the VP is typing up a report. I look over his shoulder and it doesn't look like it's going well. He starts asking me questions because I seem to have the answers. I tell him I don't know and don't really understand. So he struggles on for 40 minutes. It's now 10 minutes before the meeting. I lean over his shoulder...

"Would you kill me if I say I've already done it? 'Cause I have. Far more thoroughly than this."

It was mildly funny. According to the co-ordinator, he owes me a coke or a coffee or something for covering his butt. Hehehehe.


In addition to this, it was the art exhibition at college. I had some pictures on display that I was very proud of, my dad came along and my teacher said really nice things about me, asked what my flaw is. Always feels nice when people can't see a flaw in you.

There was also a little plagiarism from some other people but... oh well. Guess you ca';t help it they're lazy.

Anyway, overall a pretty good day. My friend going round the exhibition did make me laugh. A LOT!

My pictures, set to Sk8er Boi by Avril Lavigne.

#EndFathersDay and Feminism

I do not agree with the trending hashtag. 

I think it's ridiculous that it's not okay to be sexist to a woman but it is socially acceptable to be sexist to a man. It's also socially acceptable to be racist to a white person. 

Logic = gone!

There is a system that single mothers can use to track down runaway fathers in order to get them to pay money for their kids but single fathers are not allowed to use it to track down runaway mothers. Sexist

When battling for custody in court, a man cannot say that they love their child as it will be perceived as being creepy and they will not be given custody by being suspect of pedophillia. Women are completely fine to say they love their kids. Sexist

Single mothers get put to the top of the housing list for council houses. Single fathers might actually be told they aren't allowed on the waiting list even. Sexist

A large part of this is down to feminism and yet, a lot of feminists claim to want "equality" for both genders. Somehow this doesn't quite seem right to me. I know there is still a lot of sexism towards women too, I'm not so oblivious to have missed that. But everybody cares about that. Nobody cares about how poorly men are treated.

Anyway, I'm going to cut this there. I did write a blog post on my old blog about feminism but I had to private it due to some bullying incidents because GOD FORBID I HAVE DIFFERENT IDEAS TO THE FEMINISTS AT MY COLLEGE! *GASP*

Not Knowing What To Blog About/Bucket List

I have no idea what to blog about (hence my lack of posts) so here is my bucket list for the summer.

1. Keep a journal
2. Make a music video and send it to BBC radio 1
3. Read a lot
4. Find a new TV series to watch (I watch very little TV)
5. Dress up as a pokemon 
6. Dress up as Harley Quinn (again)
7. Visit Hampton Court
8. Go on the London Eye
9. Go to London aquarium 
10. Go to Covent garden
11. Visit Bow Street
12. Go to build a bear
13. Go to the beach
14. Have a picnic in central London
15. Have a picnic on Wimbledon common
16. Have a massive water fight
17. Have a sleepover
18. Watch The Fault in our Stars
19. Watch The Anomaly
20. Studio Ghibli marathon
21. Go to a concert
22. Make something from Nerdy Nummies
23. Lighten my hair
24. Add colour to my hair
25. Pull an all nighter
26. Pictures in a photobooth
27. Go bowling
28. Spa day with friends
29. Raise money for charity
30. Keep this blog going

That's it for now but I might think of more and make a part 2.

I Had A Strange Dream

Yeah... Nothing interesting happens. I might just do more responses to YouTube videos...

So since Wednesday the following happened:

Thursday

• Met up with an old friend
• Bowling was cancelled

Friday

• Family stuff to do

Saturday

• Babysat

Thrilling, amayrite?

The most interesting thing was probably the dream I had last night... It was certainly... different.

Harrison Ford

There was a carnival/funfair thing on. I was there with some people I haven't seen in years. We did loads of crazy stuff and went on all the rides. Then I eventually went home. So I go home and I lived in this crazy big white and dark grey mansion. I go in and, for some reason, my dad is now Harrison Ford. So I'm wandering round the kitchen chatting to him as my dad then I decide to go upstairs. I go into my bedroom which is HUGE and there are 3 rooms attached, 2 bathrooms (one for each gender) and a massive cupboard with a huge bookshelf and wardrobe in it. So I go to lay in bed when Ian Somerhalder walks in. He's got on quite thick eyeliner for some reason and it can best be described as being like Jack Sparrow eyeliner. So he's on the phone to Patty Walters (seeing anything completely weird and random here?) and he's talking about how Patty got a new girlfriend and asking him questions about her and saying how good it is and how he deserves it after being single for so long (Patty Walters actually has a girlfriend in case you are wondering) and then Ian, still on the phone, come to lie next to me on the bed. I turn over to hug him, half lying on top of him and trying to overhear his conversation. He then hangs up and we just laid there hugging...

Ian Somerhalder

So yeah. That is the most interesting thing to happen over the last few days and it didn't even actually happen. Yeah... I'm not Harrison Ford's daughter. I'm not Ian Somerhalder's girlfriend. I'm not Patty Walters' friend. The last two things do make me quite sad.

Patty Walters

So that's all really...